The decision to adopt as a single parent was never a decision at all.

I always wanted kids, yeah, we imagine a knight in shining armour, but my career always took center stage and as I reached my mid 30s it became clear it was just less complicated to do it on my own.

I too was one of 3 children of adoption, so the concept was not so far out of my orbit. After spending, 12 years on the road with the circus and the infamous house of bohemia, I had lived in a world of acceptance, I drove a company exclusively built on love.

But when I looked out on our city streets it is the pain of our children that demonstrates how our country still bleeds.

When we reached the next steps of being a mixed-race family it was a whole new experience, and although I have spent my life in a vibrant and liberated community, nothing could have prepared me for subtle and systematic racism and pain we inflict upon on each other.

I soon realized that it was time to change.

Dumping a 25 year career was not something that I saw or predicted, but what I did see, was the non-negotiable of wanting my children to have mentors of all colours and paths, and as painful as it was to leave our home, Johannesburg was a city that could do that and shine.

And amazingly, one of my biggest newfound prides is the embrace of this Pan African community.

These Kings and Queens of Africa standing so strong, exuberating the love and support my children and I feel each day. Grown men that could barely say the word Gay, completely transforming with gratitude as they acknowledge a better world when all communities can play their part.

People always ask how I do it, please; millions of women do it on their own every day.

But simply, we revel in community and hold each other’s hands as walk into a new world together.

One where our beautiful children can aspire to become whoever they want to be and will always feel the love of Africa.

We have the greatest constitutions in the world, now it is up to us to embrace power on and live it.

Protecting our nation’s children not a white, gay, or black issue.

This, my friends, is a battle for humanity.

Lots of love

Zuko, Kobe and Richard